You Often Ask For Financial Aid, How To Deal With It?
Peace, mercy and blessings of God
Ustadz, I want to ask a question.
If there are older siblings who ask for financial assistance many times, while I have to share the money with my children, father, and I still have dependents, what is my attitude towards this problem?
Thank you, Ustadz.
Greetings, Fulanah
ANSWER:
ليكم السلام الله ات
Bismillah… Helping relatives or those who are still related by nasab is highly recommended in Islam. Among the narrations that show this are:
هريرة ال ا ل الله الصدقة ل ال: المقل ابدأ ل” (رواه وأبو اود ابن ابن ان الحاكم)
"From the companion of Abu Hurairah RA, he asked, 'O Messenger of Allah, what is the best charity?' The Prophet replied, 'The charity of those who have little wealth. Prioritize the people who are your responsibility (your family) " (Hadith narrated by Ahmad and Abu Dawud. This hadith is authentic according to Ibn Khuzaimah, Ibn Hibban, and Al-Hakim).
لمان امر النبي لى الله ليه لم ال الصدقة لى المسكين لى الرحم اثنتان وصلة (رواه النسائي الترمذي)
"From Salman bin Amir RA, from the Prophet Muhammad SAW, he said, 'Alms to the poor (worth) one charity. But alms to relatives (worth) two alms, first the reward of charity, secondly the reward (maintain) friendship.' (Hadith narrated by An-Nasai & Tirmidhi)
From the hadith above, charity to relatives is more recommended than alms to others because it can connect the ties of kinship. However, if you are too dependent on your mother without any effort of your own, then you must give her good advice. Because the position of the mother is already a family who has greater responsibilities to children and parents. Mothers can gradually reduce the ration to their siblings so that they can think and work independently without having to always depend on their mother.
May Allah give a way out. Amen.
Wallâhu a'lam bish-showâb.
Regards!
(Answered by: Ustadz Very Setiyawan, Lc., S.Pd.I., MH)
#SahabatMigran want to consult about Islamic religious issues and life issues? Come on, submit the question via a WhatsApp message to the number +852 52982419. [DDHKNews]
