Husband doesn't fulfill family income but forbids wife to work
Peace, mercy and blessings of God
Ustadz, I want to ask a question.
Is it a sin for a wife to work without her husband's permission? While the husband does not want to know what is happening in the house, the economic needs also do not want to try to fulfill it.
During work, it is the wife who provides for the children and fulfills all their needs, except affection for the children. But if there is a problem, the wife is also blamed for not taking care of the children.
Does the wife sin if she persists in her work and does not heed her husband's request to stop working? While the husband himself does not want to agree to promise to provide for the family?
Thank you, Ustadz.
Greetings, Fulanah
ANSWER:
ليكم السلام الله ات
Bismillah… Basically working to earn a living is the husband's obligation, not the wife's. Allah SWT says:
(ٱلرِّجَالُ ٰمُونَ لَى لنِّسَاۤءِ ا لَ للَّهُ عَلَىٰ اۤ ا۟ أَمۡوَ لِهِمۡۚ لصَّـٰلِحَـٰتُ لِّلۡغَیۡبِ ا ٱللَّهُۚ
{سورة النساء: }
"Men (husbands) are protectors for women (wives), because Allah has favored some of them (men) over others (women), and because they (men) have provided a living from their wealth. So pious women are those who obey (to Allah) and take care of themselves when (her husband) is not around, because Allah has taken care of (them)". {Surat an-Nisa': 34}
The verse above does not explain that women are obliged to work, but their original obligation is to be a good housewife by maintaining the honor of her, her husband and taking care of her children at home, as well as guarding her husband's property and trust. However, Islam does not prohibit a wife from working as long as she fulfills the conditions. Among them:
- Get her husband's permission;
- His work in his home environment;
- Her work is outside the home but has got her husband's permission.
- Her work is in accordance with her nature as a woman such as teaching, medical personnel, and so on;
- Safe from slander and not mixed freely (ikhtilath) with other men;
- It does not take much time so that the obligation to take care of her husband, children, and household is neglected.
If the above conditions are met, then a wife may work.
But what happens if the wife works outside the home without her husband's permission, while the husband is not properly responsible for providing a living?
First, if the wife still wants to live the ark of the household with her husband, then she has the right to advise her husband to want to work responsibly to provide for the family. The wife also has to ask permission from her husband if she wants to work to help support the family. Because after all asking for permission from the husband to work outside for the wife is obligatory. Otherwise, he is a sinner. Unless you have asked permission but the husband does not care and cannot provide the best solution while he still does not work well to provide for the family.
Second, if the wife is not strong enough with the husband's irresponsible behavior for the family and it has been protracted, then the wife has the right to file divorce from her husband because she cannot carry out the obligation to provide a good living for the family.
Talk and discuss it well, hopefully there is a way out of the problem that you are facing. I hope that your husband will realize that he can be a responsible husband by working to provide for the family well, so that the household is safe.
Wallâhu a'lam bish-showâb.
Peace, mercy and blessings of God
(Answered by: Ustadz Very Setiyawan, Lc., S.Pd.I., MH)
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