Cheating Husband, Doesn't Want to Let Go of Me and the Affair
Question:
Assalamu'alaikum, Ustadz.
My husband is cheating, chaplain. My two children at home, in the care of my husband. As a result of my work in Hong Kong, I built a house on my husband's land. My husband didn't want to let go of me and his affair.
My target is to finish this contract in 4 months (April 2021), I will go home.
What is clear I am disappointed. I worked in Hong Kong for about 9 years to change my family life. Husband has cheated about finances. I was suspicious, but I don't want to be prejudiced. Finally, Allah opened his disgrace.
I'm a little depressed too. Please solve it, Ustadz.
Thank you in advance. Jazakallahu khoiron.
Salam,
Fulanah
Answer:
Wa'alaikumussalam warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
First, be devoted to all the provisions of Allah. And, from this incident, what kind of wisdom will God give.
Because every difficulty faced by His servants of Allah brings ease and happiness, and every test that Allah gives to His servants is a ladder of success in the future.
Husbands do this, what can I say? Husbands are also human, just as mothers are human, have physical and spiritual needs, which should be fulfilled. If not, it will give birth to damage and inexplicability, which your husband is currently experiencing.
Invite Husband to Discuss
Mother's decision to return to the country was right. Go home, discuss, talk from heart to heart, why is it that your husband's heart can do this. And, if there is a mother's role as a wife who cannot provide proper duties and services, then forgive and knit back the household building that was torn apart by this incident. Ask carefully and good morals for repentance nasuha. Remember, both children need good examples and role models from both parents.
Stay away from the syaithon cry. All the inner voices that invite to destroy the integrity of the household are all from cursed syaithon. Although, it came out of the mouth of relatives or family. Don't ever be followed. Focus on building a sakinah household, full of mawaddah, and guarding it with grace.
It is all for the sake of the two sons of the mother, in order to become solih and solihah sons and daughters. There is a future for them that they have to look forward to, and of course with their husband who is their biological father.
Look far ahead, see the future of your two sons who are still long, see much wider, so that the tight and narrow chest feels spacious. Because, our life is not just for the enjoyment of the world, but there is an afterlife and the pleasure of Allah which will be the final port of our destination.
Allahua'lam.
Regards!
Answered by: Ustadz Imam Alfaruq, SEI, ME
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