Husband is reluctant to provide for but prohibits wife from extending work contract in Hong Kong

ASKING:

Assalamualaikum, Chaplain.

I can't lie to myself. Even though there is God, my heart still grieves when my husband forbids me to renew my work contract. In fact, there is still a one-time contract with 6 months agency fee. As for the place where we live, we still live in an old house which is actually no longer suitable for use and is about to collapse.

While I was at home, my husband did not work. He just followed his own pleasure: going fishing and hanging out with friends. I was at home raising children, selling drinks at home as little as possible to meet our daily needs, and taking care of the house.

My husband said, even though he didn't provide for it, but every day in fact he could be enough to eat. He said, I am the one who is not grateful.

Yes indeed, I struggled on my own. Alhamdulillah, I was given sufficient by Allah.

But I was at my home, I couldn't participate in recitation or pray on time, because no one took care of my child. I also cannot properly educate my children, such as the Koran, because at home I take care of everything myself.

I don't force my husband to make a living. The problem is, if the husband gets a fortune, his family feels more entitled to my husband's fortune.

In fact, in the past, I used to invest my husband to make a stall on the side of the road. Because I gave birth and couldn't help it, finally it temporarily closed down and was taken over by her brother.

But after I wanted to use it again, their whole family, including my in-laws, became hostile towards us. Even saying, getting married is the husband's property as well as his family's property. As my wife and child, I have no rights over my husband's property. In fact, what I and my husband used to build capital was only his name.

Currently my husband has given divorce 1, if I want to increase my work contract. But after I received the divorce, I saw that he himself was getting more and more stressed and depressed, often angry.

But after I put forward a condition: if my husband wants me to come home, then there must be an agreement to improve each other. He wanted me to be reunited, which meant that I had to be with my child, because we both brought our children before we got married. After marriage, he said, my child would not necessarily be right with my parents. In fact, I also accept his child.

Until now he was silent, no answer. Just demanding sexual services take precedence.

Salam,

Fulanah

ANSWER:

Wa'alaikumussalam warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.

Many PMI friends in Hong Kong and elsewhere have accepted this kind of question. My advice:

1. Spend istikharah and hajat prayers every night, ask for the best guidance from Allah.
2. Communication with husband and commitment to the rights and obligations of each (husband and wife).
3. Ask parents / uncle / trusted parents to be able to find solutions, so that joint commitments can be carried out properly.

May Allah make it easy, rabbunaa yusahhil.

Wallâhu a'lam bish-showâb.

Regards!

Answered by: Ustadz H. Ahmad Fauzi Qosim.

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